A Christian is a follower of Christ therefore anyone who professes to be a Christian is expected to follow the teaching of Christ in every aspect of life. This includes His teaching on divorce.
Too many professed Christians are getting divorced, many for very
petty reasons such as irreconcilable differences. Such divorce is not sanctioned by God. What is worse is these people are remarrying and are very active in church. You are only fooling yourself. You may be divorced and remarried legally according to the laws of the state but on the authority of God’s word you are living in sin and God is not pleased with this.
Divorce was never a part of God’s original plan. It was practiced by sinful men who wanted to have their own way. If a man married a woman who later became displeasing to him, he will just divorce her and put her out of his house. (Deuteronomy 24:1).
The liberal school of Hillel taught that a man could divorce his wife for the most trivial cause. For example, if his wife permitted his food to burn he will divorce her. The more conservative school of Shammai taught that a man could divorce his wife for some unseemly thing such as immodest or indecent behaviour.
The Law of Moses did not institute divorce. Moses only tolerated it and regulated it by asking the men to give the women some dignity by giving them a certificate of divorce. However, Jesus made it plain that there should be no divorce except in the case of marital infidelity. Matthew 5: 31-32. “It has been said, anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce but anyone who divorce his wife, except for sexual immorality, make her a victim of adultery and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” This means that anyone who were divorced for any other reason except for adultery and remarried, are living in sin.
In Matthew 19: 3-4 we are told that some Pharisees attempted to test Jesus by asking Him if it was lawful for a man to put away his wife for any and every reason as was the practice. Jesus responded by saying, in the beginning the creator made them male and female and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife and the two will become one flesh.
They were no longer two but one flesh and what God has joined together no one should separate.
God did not institute divorce. Divorce is Satan’s plan to separate what God has joined together so anyone who divorces for any other reason except for adultery is following Satan’s plan.
Should one partner commit adultery, repent and seek forgiveness, God expects the other partner to forgive. We usually repeat the Lord’s prayer and ask God to forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Matthew 6: 14-15 says, “If you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you but if you do not forgive others of their sin, your father will not forgive your sin.”
So, if we cannot forgive our partners when they sin and are willing to turn away from their sin, we should not expect to be forgiven.
Anyone who is unwilling to forgive others does not deserve to be forgiven because to extend forgiveness to him/her will be to condone his/her unforgiving spirit. 1 Corinthians 13:4 states that, “Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, IT KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS”. If married people live by these principles there will be less divorce.
Fellow believers, too many professed Christians are divorcing for reasons other than adultery. Irreconcilable difference is not recorded in the bible. If you are guilty of doing that on the authority of Gods’ word, you are living in sin. It’s time to get right with God.
Believer in Christ